No One Loves You More

Above is an image from a video (by Nicholas J. Freitas) which is posted on the webpage “Men are Defenders” – which shows a serviceman coming home to the embrace of his loving wife and child. The emotion of his loving wife is “off-the-charts” as she weeps in great love for her man – whom she has received home again safe and sound. This emotional reunion testifies that there is no one one earth who loves a man more than his own wife and children. The love of a wife even supersedes the great love that a mother has for her own child.

Typically (as a single man) the greatest love he has ever experienced is the love which his own mother has for him. However, despite how great his mother’s love is – this can actually pale in comparison to the love a wife will have for him. This is why single men should marry as soon as possible because having a wife and children of their own is the greatest love that young men will ever experience on earth!

The One-Flesh Relationship

Genesis 2:24 (NASB95)
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

God created the woman for man because God said it is not good that a man be alone. It is for this reason that a young man must leave his father and his mother and be joined together with is own wife so that they can become “one-flesh” or “one-complete” person together.

Genesis 2:18 (NASB95)
18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

God said it was not good for a man to be alone so God made a helper that was suitable for him.

Genesis 2:21–22 (NASB95)
21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.
22 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.

The way in which God created the woman was different than the way God created the man. The man was formed from the dust of the earth but the woman was created from the flesh and bones of Adam. God removed everything that was feminine within Adam and placed these feminine qualities into his wife Eve. This means that everything that was missing in Adam was found in Eve so that when she was joined to Adam in marriage then Adam once again become “one-complete person” or “one-flesh” together with his wife.

Genesis 2:23 (NASB95)
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”

Not only was Eve made of the bones and flesh of Adam but she carries everything that is missing in him. This has application for all unmarried young men today because until they are married to a wife (a biological woman) they are incomplete. But once they are married to a wife then they become “one-complete person” together with their wife.

Only a female woman can fulfill a man because only she holds that which is missing within him. Conversely this also means that women are not complete until they marry a man because the man also holds that which is missing in the woman.

God Hates Divorce

Malachi 2:16 (NASB95)
16 “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

God hates divorce because it separates men and women who have become united in marriage as “one-person” or “one-flesh” together. Separation by divorce is like ripping a garment into two pieces and tearing it across the fabric. This would leave the fabric frayed and ripped up and destroyed so that it can never be fully restored again to its original condition. Married couples are not to deal treacherously with their spouses by divorcing them.

Matthew 19:4–6 (NASB95)
4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,
5 and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’?
6 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Jesus stated clearly that a married couple is no longer two single individuals but rather they are joined together as one-flesh or one-person together. Jesus said that God has joined the man and woman in marriage and this marriage union should not be separated by humans. This means that separation by divorce by either party is forbidden by God.

Malachi 2:15 (NLT)
15 Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.

God joined the man and the woman together in holy matrimony for the purpose of procreation. God desires that the man and woman will produce godly offspring. Only a godly man and woman can produce godly children which are precious in the sight of God.

Genesis 18:19 (NASB95)
19 “For I have chosen him, so that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing righteousness and justice, so that the LORD may bring upon Abraham what He has spoken about him.”

God specifically chose Abraham because he could be trusted to command his children (and grandchildren) after him about keeping the ways of God. Thus godly children are able to carry the knowledge of God into the following generations. Nothing is more important than for a young man to marry and start a family and to raise godly children for the Lord.

Psalm 127:3–5 (NASB95)
3 Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth.
5 How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They will not be ashamed When they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Children are a gift from the Lord and the fruit of the womb is God’s reward for the married couple. Children are like arrows in the hand of a warrior because if these children are raised up in godly manner then they can be released to go forward into the future like releasing an arrow from a bow to fly toward a distant target.

This scripture also speaks of children “born in one’s youth” so young men should marry as soon as possible rather than waiting until they are old before starting a family. Having a quiver full of children speaks of having as many children as God will bless them with (the more the better) because godly children are precious and valuable to the Lord.

When a young man marries and becomes one-flesh or “one-complete-person” together with his wife then he can experience the greatest love on earth as his wife becomes part of him and loves and cares about him. Then when they have children together it is even greater as the children love their parents and then the young married men will discover “real purpose” in life and experience great love and unity together as a family unit.

Leaving Behind a Legacy

The image above comes from the video (by Nicholas J. Freitas) which is posted on the webpage “Men are Defenders” and shows the return of the remains of a soldier fallen in battle. If a soldier was never married and has no offspring then he will have left nothing behind on earth and his lineage will be terminated upon his death. It is for this reason that God’s word instructs that a newly married man should be free from military duty for at least one-year after marriage.

Deuteronomy 24:5 (NASB95)
5 “When a man takes a new wife, he shall not go out with the army nor be charged with any duty; he shall be free at home one year and shall give happiness to his wife whom he has taken.

The scripture above says that when a young men is newly married that he should not go out with the army or be charged with any duty but is free to stay at home for a year and give happiness to his wife. This can be a time of marriage adjustment and the blending of two people to become “one complete person” together but it also denotes something more.

Psalm 113:9 (NASB95)
9 He makes the barren woman abide in the house As a joyful mother of children. Praise the LORD!

An unmarried woman without husband or children is barren as a single person but when she marries she can become a happy mother of children. So bringing happiness to a wife is also related to bringing into motherhood and starting a family.

This is why a man was to not go out to war for the first year but he should start a family because having children is an lasting legacy which can continue long after his own life on earth is over.

Deuteronomy 20:7 (NASB95)
7 ‘And who is the man that is engaged to a woman and has not married her? Let him depart and return to his house, otherwise he might die in the battle and another man would marry her.’

A man engaged to be married was not to be sent out to war but he was to return home and start his family first so that he would not perish in battle and some other man would take his girl as his wife instead. Again, it should be emphasized that a man should marry and have children as soon as possible and before they go to war and risk ending their legacy as a barren single man who left behind no offspring to carry on his name and legacy.

Note: Clicking on the image below will open the associated stored video:

In the above video, a soldier’s wife answers the door with a happy face only to come to the stark realization that the flag that covered her deceased husband’s coffin was now being delivered to her (together with his military “dog-tags”). The pain of her great loss is evident in this video!

Question: What will a young man do if he has never married and has no children to keep him memory alive? A wife and children is what really causes a young man to experience love on this earth. These are the ones who love him the most and who would mourn his death and would keep his memory alive for the coming generations. Marry before going to war? Yes, indeed because marriage is the most important thing a man can do while he is still alive on earth. How tragic if a young man should perish all alone as a single man without leaving anyone behind to carry on his memory and even his values to the next generation.

Vain Death in a Vain War

Also it is a great tragedy if young men are sent to war because of the greed and corruption of crooked politicians and defense contractors who make huge profits from war. Such warmongers will face an “unspeakable damnation” in hell for all those they caused to die by starting needless wars for their own personal gain.

Honorable “Death-Sacrifice” For Others to Live Free

John 15:13 (NASB95)
13 “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.

It is an honorable thing for a young man to lay down his life for protecting his country. He is essentially fighting for the preservation of his nation so that his children and grandchildren after him might live in peace. When on the battle field his first responsibility is to stay alive for his wife and children at home who need him. Then it is his responsibility to protect his companions who are together with him in battle and third it is his responsibility to defend his country in general so that others might live in peace due to his own sacrifice. Fighting in an honorable war entails fighting for a just cause with clearly defined aggressors and clearly defined victims. These are all issues related to the “ethics of war” and why men go and fight for the preservation of freedom for their own loved ones and for their nation.

Again, see the link “Young Men Sacrificed For War” for more details.